Falling in love / Coffee shop conversations for couples

Falling in Love Often

Falling in love is an ongoing process and not a one-time event. If you are a planner, right now is an excellent time to figure out how the two of you will fall in love all over again.

The Math of Falling in Love

As a fan of The Big Bang Theory, I thought to myself, If Sheldon Cooper were here, he would create a formula for this. When it comes to math, I’m no Sheldon. So my formula is simple and goes like this:

Close proximity + a flirtatious attitude + a determination to find fun = falling in love again

Love and a Close Proximity

One thing I’ve learned about falling in love, over and over again, is that close proximity is required. There is an ongoing debate about whether quality time or quantity time matters most. My answer is “yes!”

In other words, I see these two as connected. Whenever I spend quality time with Jenny, I don’t want the moment to end. This usually leads to spending a large quantity of time together. And, when Jenny and I spend large amounts of time enjoying one another’s presence, amazing adventures always follow.

Love and Flirting

Is it OK to say that Christian couples should still flirt? My wife is hot! I thought so when I married her and I still think so now.

Perhaps you heard the joke about the crusty old cowboy who told his wife how beautiful she was on their wedding day. When she asked a few months later, “Honey, do you still think I’m pretty?” He replied, “Of course I do. I told you that when we married, and if anything changes, I’ll let you know.”

Don’t be that couple!

Our world is in dire need of heroic marriages, couples with unions so amazing other people think to themselves, I want that!

It’s OK to be that old couple who still walks down the beach together, hand-in-hand. The world needs to see that falling in love with our spouse, over and over again, is still possible.

Love and Fun

Love should be fun and is key to a happy marriage. In fact, if you and your spouse are not finding copious reasons for joy, then you may be doing it wrong. Some of my favorites activities with Jenny include:

  • Morning coffee by the fire.
  • Boardgames
  • Popcorn and a movie
  • Breakfast at Jan’s Place–a local favorite

Having fun doesn’t have to be over the top. If you’re a busy parent–as we are–then sometimes simple is best.

As you can see, Jenny and I can use more creative date ideas to expand our list. The next few days are going to be chilly as in a “my face hurts whenever I walk outside” type of cold. So any new date night ideas are appreciated.

Falling in Love Again

Mignon McLaughlin is right, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”

How are you and your spouse falling in love again? Let’s continue the conversation below. To connect with other couples who are committed to falling in love over and over again, be sure to check out our Joyfully Married Facebook group. It’s an excellent place to ongoing find encouragement and an abundance of marriage wisdom.


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Jed Jurchenko

Jed Jurchenko is the husband to an incredible wife, daddy to four amazing girls, and a foster dad to one more. He's served as a children's pastor, marriage and family therapist, psychology professor, award-winning writing coach, and life coach. Jed is the author of 23 books on relationships, parenting, writing, and doing life well. In his free time, you'll find Jed reading, preparing for an upcoming marathon, barbecuing, paddle boarding, and enjoying life with his incredible family. Find out more about Jed's books, coaching, and courses at www.ithrive320.com.

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