Imagine that you could travel back in time and enjoy a cup of coffee with your younger self. What words of wisdom about life would you share? This is a question that I attempt to answer in my book, Coffee Shop Inspirations: Simple Strategies For Building Dynamic Leadership And Relationships.
Although I never ask the question directly, providing words of wisdom for a younger me is what this book is all about. You see, I wrote Coffee Shop Inspirations for me. It’s advice that I wish I knew ten years ago.
So what advice would I pass on to my younger self? Keep reading and find out. See if these are words of wisdom that you would share with your younger self too?
Words of Wisdom About Life:
1) It is perfectly okay not to argue.
There was a time in my life where I thought that if someone needed to “talk,” I was obligated to engage. During disagreements, I would explain, try to please, and explain again. I had the misconception that if others saw that I truly desired to act in everyone’s best interest, we could all be friends. Yes, I was that naive. Today, I understand that some people enjoy a good fight. The words of wisdom that I would give to my younger self-are:
[Tweet “Don’t get caught up in endless arguments. These are not helpful for anyone!”]
2) Make a decision and get started!
Sometimes good choices don’t feel good. It is easy to get stuck, waiting for the perfect opportunity. I know, because I’ve been there! Making a decision and getting started is important because gaining momentum is the key to building more momentum. I would want my younger self to know: Don’t just sit there. Get started.
[Tweet “Do the best you can with what you have, and better options will open up.”]
3) Life is better when you focus on the good!
The cognitive psychologies teach us that people can actually think themselves into a state of depression. The opposite is also true. We can think our way into happiness. I would give my younger self the following words of wisdom about life: Find the good and focus on it!
[Tweet “Honing in on the good makes work, family, and life a happier place to be. “]
4) Reframe your problems.
This advice actually falls into the category of words of wisdom for me right now. What if problems are really opportunities to grow? Perhaps my current challenge of struggling to find enough time to get everything done is not horrible or awful. Maybe this is a growth opportunity. Today, I am getting good at writing and taking care of a one-year-old at the same time. Perhaps God knows that I will need to have good time-management skills in the future. I am refining these abilities now. The words of wisdom about life I’d share with a younger me include:
[Tweet “Reframe your difficulties. View challenges as opportunities for growth!”]
5) Take time to relax and have fun!
Mark 1:35 tells how Jesus woke up early and headed to a quiet place to pray. If Jesus took time to relax and recharge, then you and I most certainly need to do the same. As a psychology professor, I understand the importance of self-care better than most. Yet, this is also an area I struggle with: The words of wisdom I would give myself:
[Tweet “Don’t just talk about the importance of self-care, practice it!”]
Wisdom for Everyday Life
These five pieces of advice are words of wisdom about life that I would love to pass on to my younger self. They are also words of wisdom that I strive to live out daily. In fact, I believe in this advice so much that I wrote a book about it. In Coffee Shop Inspirations, I focus on how to put these five principles into action. Although it’s easy to know what we should do, it’s often difficult to put this advice into action. Even the Apostle Paul wrote about how he would find himself not doing the good things he knew he should (Romans 7:19).
If you find yourself knowing what you should do, but not doing it, then this book is for you. In fact, I believe these words of wisdom so strongly that I’m giving my book away for the next five days. You can download your free copy here: Coffee Shop Inspirations: Simple Strategies For Building Dynamic Leadership And Relationships.
Continue the Conversation
- What would of wisdom about life would you give to a younger you?
- What ideas in the post resonated the most?
- Which of these words of wisdom have you already tried, and how did they work?
Feel free to add to the conversation in the comments below. I wish you a fantastic week as you put these words of wisdom into action!