Conversation is powerful! I discovered this firsthand while facing a major storm in my life. After seeking wisdom from pastors and counselors–who were heavy on the advice and light on the conversation–my situation grew worse, and I felt defeated. Then, I discovered the healing power of conversation.
Pain, Conversation, and Healing
Ten years ago, I was in the midst of a marriage crisis. The advice I received was to:
- Pray more.
- Read the Bible.
- Attend Church.
- And trust God for the results.
On the one hand, these spiritual disciplines are sound advice for anyone wanting to grow their faith. Nevertheless, spiritual disciplines are not marital advice, and these actions had no direct correlation to the specifics of my situation.
At the time, I was married to someone who was facing many challenges of her own—including intense anger and depression. I became the victim of ongoing violence in our home. It consisted of ongoing physical, mental, and emotional chaos. Practicing the spiritual disciplines was not enough, and because I didn’t understand that there were proactive, positive steps that I could take–such as setting healthy boundaries and focusing on my own self-care–my situation grew darker.
Fast-forward ten years. I am remarried to an incredible woman who loves Jesus. The two of us have a fantastic relationship. Jenny and I love our three–soon to be four–daughters deeply. We are a blended family home, and while life is far from perfect, it is amazingly good.
The Power of Conversation
The turning point in my challenges happened when I found wise counselors who understood the power of conversation. These men and women believed that:
- People are unique.
- Life is messy and has nuances that must be taken into account.
- Solutions are rarely black-and-white.
In other words, tools that work well for one family may not work as well for another. A conversation is needed! So instead of providing authoritative advice, we brainstormed together, prayed together, and teamed up to make life work. The solutions didn’t come quickly, but they did come. What it took was an ongoing conversation.
“Discovering solutions to life’s most pressing challenges begins with a conversation.
Psalm 139:14, says that you and I are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Unique people require individualized wisdom. A one-size-fits-all approach doesn’t work.
This is why I was so excited when my friend Etienne asked if I would join him and his fiance, Chatiela, on a weekly radio-broadcast focusing on faith, family, friendship, and, of course, conversation! This live and unedited broadcast features wisdom from hosts with a combination of education in the helping professions, invaluable personal experiences, a passion for honoring Christ, and a desire to serve others.
In our primer episode, we dive into:
- Our shared passion for conversation.
- The importance of faith in our lives.
- We share glimpses of our own stories.
Listen to our Broadcast Here:
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We would love to hear from you. How have you seen the power of conversation at work? How are your faith and your story leading you to serve others? What topics would you like discussed in future episodes? We look forward to continuing the conversation in the comments below!
Meet the Team
Etienne Gibbs is an MSW, Author, Consultant, and Talk Show Host, who blogs at www.etiennegibbs.com.
Chatila Underwood is the author of Eyes Wide Shut and is currently working on her second book.