As I get closer and closer to having Addison officially join our family and I go through the process of nesting and preparing for her arrival, I can’t help but feel nostalgic for the days when I was going through a similar process getting ready to become a stepmom to Mackenzie and Brooklyn.
I moved into the apartment our little family would be sharing about 2 months before our wedding, and Jed and I started the process of preparing a special room for the girls. We looked for the perfect beds. I spent hours (and hours…and hours) shopping for the perfect comforters. We began moving some of the girl’s clothing and toys to our new home….and I went shopping some more for some new goodies to add to the mix = ) I made pictures to hang on the walls and decoupaged cute paper onto crafty letters of their first initial. I made a little slideshow of pictures of the girls and the time we had spent together while I was dating their dad. We even took family pictures before we were married so we could hang up pictures of our family in our new home!
I remember that when the room was coming together, I would watch my little video and cry. Every time I watched it. There were no doctors visits. No baby showers. No little person kicking me from the inside to remind me she was coming. But none-the-less I was becoming a mom. I was dreaming about the life I would share with these two wonderful little people. I was so excited that we would be a family. And I was terrified that I would mess it up. That they wouldn’t like being part of my family.
And I do mess it up, as it turns out. And our life together isn’t always the picture of perfection that I envisioned when I sat in their room dreaming about our future together. But I have a feeling that I am currently romanticizing 2 am feedings and screaming babies. Such is life. But we are happy and thriving as a family. We continue to bond and strengthen our relationship every day. We have our hiccups along the way, but I have been amazed by the girls’ acceptance of our new family.
What did you do to get ready to become a step-parent? I would love to hear your story and look forward to continuing the conversation in the comments below!