Our world is rapidly changing. As a result, the need for personal development strategies is growing. The fast-past switch between careers is one example of this. Today, the average person switches careers between 5-7 times, and this trend is growing. So much so that Forbes is calling job hopping, the ‘new normal’ for Millennials.
The Personal Development Need
My grandfather worked for General Dynamics for as long as I can remember. My dad took a similar path. He became a high school teacher shortly after I was born. He continued with this career for the next 30 years, until he retired. Jenny and I have already switched careers five times, between the two of us. The statistics suggest that our children will exceed this.
I’m not suggesting that change is a bad thing. For me, switching careers from a children’s pastor to a therapist, was a blessing in disguise. It was not an easy transition, but it was worth it. However, the downside of change is that it involves starting over–and this can be stressful. [Tweet “Feeling stuck usually precedes positive changes and breakthroughs.”] In today’s episode, Etienne, Chatiela, and I discuss personal development strategies for getting unstuck. Because Starting over is becoming increasingly common, personal development skills that help us gracefully navigate change, and rebuild momentum, are needed more than ever.
Personal Development Skills for Momentum and Growth
If your are:
- Searching for a new job.
- Recovering from a painful divorce.
- Feeling stuck in your career.
- About to embark on a new new season of life.
The skills we discuss today are for you. These personal development tools are the same strategies that each of us have used–and are continuing to implement–when we face new challenges.
Personal Development Skill #1: Focus on your ten year goal.
Bill gates said, “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” If you feel stuck, choose a wise direction and start down your path. Focus on where you will be ten years now. Delay gratification. Do the difficult work, now and enjoy the pay-off in the future.
Personal Development Skill #2: Make the best bad choice.
I would never encourage anyone to make a bad choice–yet, sometimes everyone option feels bad. Letting go of a dream is difficult. [Tweet “Doing something is almost always better than doing nothing. #momentum”] Momentum is rebuilt through action. Making the best bad choice means choosing to do the best we can with what we have. It involves letting go of the past and rebuilding momentum one positive step at a time.
I dedicated an entire chapter to this powerful personal development skill inI believe in this tool so strongly that I am giving this book away. It’s my way of cheering you on, in you personal development journey:
Personal Development Skill #3: Focus on how life is unfair, in your favor.
Life isn’t fair. We know this. Nevertheless, when the words, “It’s not fair” are spoken, they almost always carry a negative connotation. Yet, there is an abundance of ways that life is unfair to our advantage. Regain momentum by honing in on the ways that life is unfair in your favor. Here are some real-life, unfair advantages that I am blessed with:
- I am married to a beautiful, fun, and joy-filled woman.
- I have three happy, and healthy daughters.
- Jenny and I are excitedly expecting the arrival of Emma in April.
- We have a wonderful home and jobs we love.
- We are loved by God.
These incredible, God given gifts are unfair. Our family did nothing to deserve them. Yet we are blessed by them! [Tweet “Use unfair to get unstuck, by focusing on the ways life is unfair in your favor!”]
Personal Development Skill #4: Use better self-talk.
Self-talk, describes the ongoing conversation in our head. The renowned therapist Albert Ellis–The founder of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy–wrote about self-talk statements that drag us down. These include the phrases:
- “It’s awful.”
- “It’s horrible.”
- “I can’t stand this.”
This type of self-talk keeps us stuck. Albert Ellis was an expert at helping people dispute irrational beliefs, and change them. One of my favorite replacement statements is “Do the work, and you’ll get there when you get there.”
This personal development strategy is about moving forward, one step at a time. It’s a reminder that great things start slowly. [Tweet “Don’t fret and don’t quit when your journey takes longer than expected–this is normal!”]
Personal Development Skill #5: Enlist the support of friends.
Etienne, Chatiela, and I have all gone though unique personal storms. We all agree that good friendships are key to arriving safely on the other side. Surrounding ourselves with friends who cheer us on is one of the most powerful personal development strategies I know!
Personal Development Live
Without any further ado, here is our live conversation on personal development strategies for getting unstuck.
Have any of these personal development strategies worked for you? What personal development skills do you use to get unstuck? We look forward to continuing the conversation in the comments below!