Do you ever wonder how to overcome sadness? If so, keep reading. But before diving into the tips, know that sadness is a normal and healthy part of life. Everyone experiences sorrow, displeasure, and feeling of emptiness at times. In fact, sadness is so common, reports show over 20,000 searches for the phrase “I’m sad,” “I am so sad,” and other variations of these phrases, each month. And that’s just on Google
If you are experience sadness, know you are not alone. Sadness is a great place to visit—especially when there is a loss. Everyone needs to grieve. Ecclesiastes 3, states that there is a time for everything. This includes, “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Sadness serves a purpose, in that it helps us to move past our pain.
The problem with sadness is when we get stuck there. Have you ever caught yourself wallow in misery? I have and it’s a miserable place to be. If this has ever described you, then pay close attention to these six tips. Here’s how to overcome sadness and ruin a perfectly miserable day!Wondering how to overcome sadness? Here are 6 quick tips to ruin a perfectly bad day! Click To Tweet
How to Overcome Sadness
1. Spend time with happy people.
Misery loves company. If you spend time with miserable people, your sadness is guaranteed to grow. On the other hand, it’s nearly impossible to stay sad in the presence of a happy company. Proverbs 17:22 says, ” A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.”
2. Feed your happy thoughts and starve sadness.
There is an old Cherokee legend about two wolves that live and battle inside of each human being. One is named envy, jealousy, sadness, and pain. The other goes by joy, love, courage, and peace. One day, a young brave asked, “Which wolf wins?” The wise chief replied, “The one that you feed.”Dwell on sadness and it will increase. Feed your happiness and it will grow! Click To Tweet
3. Practice good self-care.
Sadness is a lot like the warning lights on the dashboard of a car. It lets us know that something needs to be attended to. After a big loss, grief is needed. It’s OK to give yourself permission to be sad. Self-care may mean setting aside time to grieve. Schedule a long walk. Talk about the loss with a close friend or knowledgeable counselor.A process of grief is a healthy part of moving past our pain. Click To Tweet
4. Smile and laugh–a lot!
Psychology teaches us that we are biopsychosocial beings. Our outward bodies are tied to our inward feelings. This means that physical actions will impact how we feel. Simple actions such as forcing a smile, telling a joke, watching a funny movie, and participating in a pleasurable activity will eventually increase our happiness. These happy actions may feel awkward at first. But eventually, they will cause sadness to dissipate. Over time, they will also begin to feel more natural, and the joy will return.
In short, if act happy, soon you will feel happier.
5. Look to God for strength.
This was a key strategy of the Biblical hero David. Many of the Psalms–which David wrote–begin in sorrow and end in rejoicing. Thank God for his goodness. Praise Him for His love for you. Rejoice that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Sadness cannot live in a person of gratitude, praise, and worship for long.Praising God is an excellent way to ruin a miserable day. Click To Tweet
6. Seek professional help.
Sometimes sadness reaches the point professional intervention is needed. Chemical imbalances, negative thought patterns, and long practiced, sorrowful habits can be difficult to break on one’s own. If you find that you’re stuck, don’t stay there. There are plenty of well-trained therapists, pastors, and life-coaches, who would love to walk alongside you on your journey to healing and growth.
The bottom line is that happiness is a choice. Sad people feed their sadness. Psychology shows that our genetic makeup does have a part to play. Each of us has a biologically set, happiness point to which we naturally return. Thus, happiness comes easier for some than others. Yet, happiness is also like a muscle, it develops with practice. The good news is that even those with a biologically low-set happiness point can raise the bar through intentional action.
Resources for Overcoming Sadness
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Dive deeper with these questions for reflection and discussion.
- Have you tried any of these strategies, and if so, how have they worked for you?
- Were there any new strategies on this list that you plan to try?
- If a friend asked how to overcome sadness, what advice would you share?
- Are there other ideas for overcoming sadness that you would add to the list?
Finally, we’d love to hear from you. Add your thoughts and keep the conversation going in the comments below!