Blended Families

moving past mommy guilt

Moving past Mommy Guilt and Embracing Joy

As any parent knows, there is a special gift that comes with the honor of having children called “mommy guilt.”  You are barraged from day 1 of your pregnancy with lists of don’t-do that-but-be-sure-to-do-this.  And far too often, those lists contradict each other.  To cry it out or not, babywear or not, breastfeed or not. …

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reduce step-parenting battles

How to Reduce Step-Parenting Battles Easily: The one thing you must do!

Sometimes the life of stepmom can feel like a constant battle. You are coming into a situation where dad and kids have their own routines and systems that you have to try to fit into.  Step-kids may resent changes in the family dynamic and be resistant to accepting you into their lives. And of course, …

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Making Blended Family Discipline Work

Blended Family Discipline: Strategies That Work

One of the most challenging parts of stepping into a marriage where kids are already present is learning how to have the stepparent deal with discipline.  As with many parenting decisions, I believe that no one set in stone way to deal with this issue.  However, I have learned some valuable lessons in our journey …

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Your Blended Family Story

Sharing and Re-Sharing Your Blended Family Story

Your story matters! Cognitive therapists know that the nuances of our story are just as important as the story itself. For example, a person undergoing horrific circumstances might refer to herself as a victim, and as a result, feel intense shame. When facing similar hardships, another person will proclaim herself a survivor and feel proud …

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unfair christmas

When Christmas is Unfair: How to Celebrate an Unfair Christmas

Can you celebrate an unfair Christmas? We think so. Here is why… Our Unfair Christmas Story On Christmas morning, Jenny and I try to keep things fair. We are a blended family, so Jenny and I are hyper-vigilant about keeping things even among all of the children. Jenny meticulously counts the number of presents, each …

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blended family lessons and stepfamily wisdom

Blended Family Lessons: Stepfamily wisdom from unlikely teachers

What blended family lessons are you learning? I’ve discovered that doing life well in a blended family is an ongoing journey. And there are some surprise teachers along the way. In this post, I share some of the lessons I’m learning. Keep reading and you might be surprised. because this powerful stepfamily wisdom comes from …

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reminder, reminders, happy life

Be Happier Now: 4 simple happiness reminders that work!

Would you like to be happier now? Me too!  If you’re like me, you often go about this by searching for new and deep happiness strategies. However, I’m learning this isn’t always the best. This weekend, while pondering future ideas for posts, I came across an inspiring quote by Samuel Johnson on the power of …

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